Hello fine readers and welcome to my Happy Silly Mondays Post – a weekly newsletter that attempts to rewrite the narrative Mondays are the most depressing day of the week.
Following the rule of 3, it contains 3 thoughts from me, 3 quotes from others and 3 things I’ve been reading, watching and/or listening to this week.
As a bonus I’ve finished with one something very silly to hopefully make you smile.
Hope you enjoy.
3 x Thoughts I’ve Been Thinking:
The moment you fix your beliefs you imprison your mind.
In not addressing our own suffering we cause it in others.
Focus has far more to do with eliminating distraction than it does with effort.
3 x Quotes I’ve been Pondering:
Ask yourself what’s not wrong? – Thich Nhat Hanh
I slept and dreamt that life was joy. I awoke and saw that life was duty. I worked — and behold, duty was joy. – Indian poet and philosopher Rabindranath Tagore
“Blame is always a limiting, contracting, fault-finding energy. It’s always rooted in the need to be right.” – Jim Dethmer
3 x Things I’ve Been Listening/Reading/Watching this week:
1 – This brilliant Against the Rules podcast episode, ‘Don’t Be Good – Be Great’ by Michael Lewis who tells the story of Billy Fitzgerald, a baseball coach who changed his life.
3 Quotes from the pod:
Why privilege corrupts: “You’re always doing what money can buy, instead of what duty demands.” – Michael Lewis
‘What is to give light must endure burning’ – Viktor Frankl
Treat a man as he can and should be and he will become as he can and should be. – Billy Fitzgerald
2. This Freakonomics Radio podcast episode, ’68 Ways to Be Better at Life’ – with Kevin Kelly explaining the reasoning behind his advice as given in his blog that he posted on his 68th birthday titled, ’68 Bits of Unsolicited Advice.’ I read the article last week and loved so many of his quotes. I jumped on the episode when I saw his name pop up and was pleased to find they discussed a number of my favourite ones (which I’ve listed below). Both the article and podcast are well worth your time.
Some of my favourite bits of unsolicited advice:
“Gratitude will unlock all other virtues and is something you can get better at.”
“Being enthusiastic is worth 25 IQ points.”
“Friends are better than money. Almost anything money can do, friends can do better. In so many ways a friend with a boat is better than owning a boat.”
“Optimize your generosity. No one on their deathbed has ever regretted giving too much away.”
“To make mistakes is human. To own your mistakes is divine. Nothing elevates a person higher than quickly admitting and taking personal responsibility for the mistakes you make and then fixing them fairly. If you mess up, fess up. It’s astounding how powerful this ownership is.”
“Separate the processes of creation from improving. You can’t write and edit, or sculpt and polish, or make and analyze at the same time. If you do, the editor stops the creator. While you invent, don’t select. While you sketch, don’t inspect. While you write the first draft, don’t reflect. At the start, the creator mind must be unleashed from judgement.”
3. This insightful WorkLife with Adam Grant episode on ‘The Real Reason You Procrastinate.’ In it Adam explores the reasons behind procrastination and some strategies you can use for avoiding it. I believe understanding why you’re doing something is often the best way to change it. This is a great example of that.
3 Quotes From The Pod:
‘Procastination isn’t caused by laziness. We don’t postpone tasks to avoid work. We do it to avoid negative emotions that a task stirs up– like anxiety, frustration, confusion, and boredom.’
‘You can change some of those emotions by showing yourself compassion. We procrastinate less when we remind ourselves that it’s part of the human condition. We’re not the only one suffering from it.’
The task you’re avoiding isn’t always the one you hate. Sometimes it’s the one you fear. The one that’s most worth pursuing.
1 x Silly Thing To Make You Smile:
When thinking of a new tagline to describe myself for the blog what I wanted to write was,
‘from a silly father, loving husband, perennial thinker and anxious pilot…’
What I actually wrote was,
‘from a silly father, loving husband, perineal thinker and anxious pilot…’
I thought to myself, ‘that doesn’t look right.’ Better double check the meaning.
From the dictionary:
perineum | ˌpɛrɪˈniːəm | noun (plural perinea) Anatomy the area between the anus and the scrotum or vulva. DERIVATIVES perineal | ˌpɛrɪˈniːəl | adjective
Well, that definitely got me thinking!!!
Till next time,
From the writer who doesn’t know how to spell…
Happy Silly Mondays Everybody!
P.S. Don’t forget to exercise your silly muscle this week!
One Bonus question for you all:
What kind of thinker are you?
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