Hello lovely readers and welcome back to my Mindset Mondays Post! The only weekly newsletter that forces you to take your medicine with a spoon full of sugar…
Following a 4-3-2-1 approach, it contains 4 thoughts from me (that you should probably ignore), 3 quotes from others (that you should definitely read), and 2 things I’ve been reading, watching or listening to this week that have helped me grow.
As always, I’ve finished with 1 terrible joke that’s so bad, you won’t be able to help but laugh…
Let’s begin!
4 x Thoughts From Me:
If you were completely at peace with who you are and where you’re at in life, you wouldn’t be thinking so much about yourself. In fact, beyond your basic needs, you wouldn’t be thinking about yourself at all.
Ignorance is bliss… but only for you, for everyone else it’s miserable. That’s not to say ignorance is unforgivable. We’re all ignorant to a large degree. The important thing is not to be deliberately ignorant about matters that affect us all. Listen to the facts. Don’t simply choose to believe something so you don’t have to feel shame. Shame is a useful emotion designed to make you change. It works wonders. Don’t ignore it. Accept it. Process it. Then move on with the greater meaning and purpose that you have derived from it.
People forget that our emotions are both our biggest weakness and our biggest superpower. What you need to do is understand them. And I’m not talking on an intellectual level. That’s easy. I’m talking about insight my friend. Insight is what you need. Insight will set you free.
If you’re not talking to yourself as you would your own friends and family then perhaps you’re not showing yourself the love and compassion that you should? And if you are, perhaps you’re not being as honest with yourself as you should? (Side note: What a f***ing dichotomy of thought that is.)
3 x Quotes From Others:
“You don’t build self esteem by patting people on the back and telling them they’re wonderful. Confidence is a much more complex phenomenon that comes from experiencing one’s strengths in action.” – Rosabeth Moss Kanter
“There is freedom waiting for you, On the breezes of the sky, And you ask “What if I fall?” Oh but my darling, What if you fly?” – Erin Hanson (Source: https://cristianmihai.net/these-5-quotes-changed-my-mindset-forever/)
“We are each responsible for our own life. If you are holding anyone else accountable for your happiness, you are wasting your time. You must be fearless enough to give yourself the love you didn’t receive. Begin noticing how each day brings a new opportunity for your growth. Pay attention. Every choice gives you a chance to pave your own road. Keep moving. Full speed ahead.” – Oprah Winfrey (Source: https://vrundachauk.wordpress.com/2020/07/04/taking-responsibility/)
2 x Things That Helped Me Grow
1 – This Brain Pickings article – 13 Life-Learnings from 13 Years of Brain Pickings – from one of my favourite bloggers Maria Popova. If you’ve not read her blog I can highly recommend you spend some time exploring. She’s a truly gifted writer. This article is well worth digesting with a cup of tea and bickies! I’ve quoted number 13 from her article below.
“In any bond of depth and significance, forgive, forgive, forgive. And then forgive again. The richest relationships are lifeboats, but they are also submarines that descend to the darkest and most disquieting places, to the unfathomed trenches of the soul where our deepest shames and foibles and vulnerabilities live, where we are less than we would like to be. Forgiveness is the alchemy by which the shame transforms into the honor and privilege of being invited into another’s darkness and having them witness your own with the undimmed light of love, of sympathy, of nonjudgmental understanding. Forgiveness is the engine of buoyancy that keeps the submarine rising again and again toward the light, so that it may become a lifeboat once more.”
– Maria Popova
2 – This YouTube video – Why Coronavirus Will Win Trump The Election – narrated by Stephen Fry. Just is case you haven’t made your mind up about who to vote for yet and just in case there was any doubt about who you really must vote for, well, give this a watch!
1 x Silly Thing To Make You Smile:
My dad sent me a picture of my mum stood next to a ginormous pumpkin that they happened upon in a local farmers market last week.
This thing was massive! It was wider than my mum is tall! Honestly I’ve never seen a pumpkin so big before in my life.
Anyway I thought for a second before replying, “Hey, if you carve Donald Trump’s face into that thing you’ll have a life sized replica!”
(Wait for it…)
“You could call it Trumpkin!”

Thanks ladies and gentlemen. I’m here all week!
Till next time…
Have a Happy Halloween Everybody!
P.S. Don’t forget to exercise your silly muscle this week!
One bonus question for you all:
How can you give yourself a break today?
(Thank you all so much for reading. If you have any suggestions, thoughts or ideas about today’s weekly post I’d love to hear from you in the comments at the bottom.)
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Every American should watch that video! Thank you for posting it. And thank you for those 4 thoughts and 3 quotes … all good stuff! I especially liked Oprah Winfrey’s “Begin noticing how each day brings a new opportunity for your growth.” Finding your blog is a new opportunity today for my growth. Thank you for finding JanBeek and leaving your calling card so I could find you ❤ I'm going to enjoy perusing your site and checking back for future posts. ❤
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Thank you JanBeek. I agree! I’m so happy you enjoyed my post. And thank you for your kind words. I look forward to hearing from you in the future too! Kind regards, AP2 🙏
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Great post! I nominated you for the Sunshine Blogger Award, feel free to check out the post on my blog!
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Thank you so much M.K. I’m truly honoured. I will make sure to do so. Wishing you all the best 🙏
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You’re welcome, all the best to you too!
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Great post, the learning from Maria Popova was beautiful, and the trumpkin…oh dear 😂
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Thanks Kellie. Glad you enjoyed it 🙏
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AP, thank you for this post. The video was very informative. Loved the “Trumpkin.” Uncanny resemblance! 🙂
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Thanks Cheryl. I’m glad you found it of value. That wasn’t the particular pumpkin in question but one I found on internet. Wishing you well 🙏
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Oh, shame. I thought it was cool.
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Oh, so more than one person is carving him in effigy! Fancy that! 🙂 Happy Halloween, AP!
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I’m not in America but I would literally give anything to see Biden win.
How can I go easy on myself today…? Well, I should prolly stop letting others affect how I live my life. I should be more selfish and look after myself more, and also ” talking to myself as i would my own friends and family.” with compassion and love and kindness. Normally I’m like “f****ng idiot why would you say/do that, why didn’t you see that, how could you forget that….” I guess I could give myself a break from that.
Lovely post my friend
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Thanks Francis – I heeded your disappointment last time and went back to a 4321 format! I’ll try keep it that way – but occasionally move to a 321 1 format if I’m particularly busy. Yeah I think all of us have a habit of being far harder on ourselves than we are on others. Sadly this is often counter productive.
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I enjoy both formats. Both are very informative and I love learning new things or seeing a different perspective. Whoever said education never stops is 100% correct because if you haven’t seen everyone’s perspectives you haven’t learnt everything.
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Always a pleasure.
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I loved your number 4.
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Forgiveness, something we can often find it easier to give others than ourselves. As you say we must have a healthy relationship with the person we see in the mirror or life will be a lot more difficult than it should be. Kia kaha, and keep on keeping on being awesome. Peace.
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Cheers Hamish. I agree – it starts with yourself. If don’t truly love yourself it’s very difficult to truly love others. Peace to you too 🙏
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