Hello lovely readers and welcome back to Mindset Mondays! The only weekly post that believes you should spend less time looking at screens, but more time visiting my blog…
Following a 3-2-1 approach, it contains 3 thoughts from me (that you should ignore), 2 quotes from others (that you should read), and 1 thing I’ve been reading, watching or listening to this week that has helped me grow.
As a bonus I’ve finished with 1 joke that’s so bad, it’s good.
Let’s begin!
3 x Thoughts:
2) Confidence comes from doing what you say you’re going to do. Two rules with that in mind. 1 – Don’t give yourself too much to do. Better to feel like you did more than you intended than less. 2 – Make sure you do at least some of what you intended. i.e. If you meant to exercise but find you only have 2 mins to spare, then do 5 push-ups. Or, if you have a busy day and only have time to do 1 min of meditation in the morning then fine, just do that. Either way make sure you do something. Moving an inch forward does more for your confidence than you realise. At least now you’ve given yourself something to build on for tomorrow.
3) 3 questions to help you find balance:
- Do I need to cultivate more lift? (Purpose, meaning, socialising with friends and family, volunteer work, etc.)
- Do I need to generate more thrust? (Get more sleep, meditate, diet change, downtime, mental, physical health, etc.)
- Do I need to carry less weight? (The amount of work you’re doing, number of commitments, finances, etc.)
2 x Quotes:
“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.“
– JIDDU KRISHNAMURTI
“To do or not to do? To try or not to try? Most people will vote no, whether they consider themselves brave or not. Uncertainty and the prospect of failure can be very scary noises in the shadows. Most people will choose unhappiness over uncertainty.”
– TIM FERRIS
1 x Thing:
This CEO Magazine article: The everyday device in your home killing hundreds around the globe. Can you guess what that device is? This article will make you aware how damaging your smart phone really is, especially for your mental health. It will also make you think twice about putting one in the hands of your children. If you don’t have the time to read it, here are a few quotes:
“Anyone over the age of 10 is already unable to imagine a world without smartphones, and as they grow into adolescence, they are likely to be gifted one of these dangerous yet vital devices by their own parents… This is “like giving them cocaine or heroin”, according to David Gillespie, the author of Teen Brain – Why Screens Are Making Your Teenager Depressed, Anxious And Prone to Lifelong Addictive Illnesses – And How to Stop it Now.
“Between 2007 and now, the rates of teenage pregnancy, and alcohol and cigarette use by teens all dropped – they’re all about half of what they were, it’s a huge achievement and I don’t know why we’re not talking more about it,” he says. “The rates of anxiety and depression for teenagers should also be halving but, instead, the rates of those things in teens have actually doubled over the same period.”
“These devices were designed from day one, by Steve Jobs and company, to be “beautiful, easy to use and hard to give up”. And, knowing how addictive they would become, Jobs famously declared that he wouldn’t let his own children near them…”
1 x Joke:
No terrible joke this week so thought I’d leave you with this awesome xkcd comic instead. I think it’s fair to say we’ve all been there!
Thanks ladies and gentlemen. I’m here all week! As always I welcome ALL thoughts and opinions on this blog. Please let us know in the comments section below.
One bonus question to ponder: What changes can you make to help curb the amount of time you spend on your phone? What could you do with that time instead?
PS: Happy screen free week everyone!
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Clear Air Turbulence 
I like your point about not giving yourself too much to do, and it is a lot better to under promise and overdeliver than the other way. Thanks for sharing this!
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My pleasure – I’m glad you liked it. Under promise and over deliver is a great way to put it! Thanks for stopping by. 🙏
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I have another balance question: Is there an unruly passenger who is easier to get rid of now than mid-flight when ejecting them is rather frowned upon?
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Cut your losses early! Good point. Certainly better to prevent them from getting on the aeroplane in the first place if you can. I guess the lesson is to be careful what/who you say yes to in the first place.
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Yes!
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Reblogged this on Love and Love Alone.
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“Moving an inch forward does more for your confidence than you realise. At least now you’ve given yourself something to build on for tomorrow.”
Very wise words!
And agreed about smartphones. I wouldn’t say the phones themselves are the problem but it is the apps contained that are problematic. Social media apps intentionally designed to be addictive and algorithms getting more sophisticated in making us not want to put the phone down. Very dangerous stuff indeed. A big societal crisis.
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Cheers Ab. Sometimes I say something wise 😂. Yes agreed about smart phones. It’s the apps that are the real problem. A great tip is to delete the particularly addictive social media ones. Then you’re forced to access your accounts via your browser which acts as a “friction point.” This makes you think a little more about whether or not you really want to check Facebook or Instagram right now. Certainly the link between smart phones and rates of depression/anxiety are alarming. I suspect there will be age restrictions placed on them in the future.
Wishing you and yours a wonderful week ahead Ab 🙏
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I like the point about confidence
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Thanks Barb. Happy it resonated 🙏
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Reading about the effects of smartphones on people is frightening. One of our sons has 2 year old twin daughters and he and his wife are bringing them up to enjoy activities other than watching t.v. and playing games on gadgets. They go outdoors as much as they can and the girls are growing up to love reading. I know they’ll be introduced to screens of many kinds when they start school, but my son and his wife are giving them a good start in appreciating other interests during leisure time.
The Krishnamurti quote is very true!
Good post . . . and I liked the joke at the end. 😀
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Hey, your 3-2-1 post is priceless. I found it through the PointlessOverthinking blog I already follow.
And you’re a pilot? And a parent as well? What a lovely combination. You’re exactly who I’d have loved to come read the post I wrote on parenting and the sensual simulation of flying an airplane.
What a cool job you have.
Thanks for your post. All wonderful. I especially loved this quote:
“It is no measure of health to be well adjusted to a profoundly sick society.“
– JIDDU KRISHNAMURTI
How very true. Thanks. And If (IF) you decide to come see my post, the title is:
The Best Simulation of What Parenting Children is Like
Thanks beforehand.
Be well. I wish you miracles. xo, Selma
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Hey Selma. Thank you so much! This is my personal blog but I write a weekly post for PointlessOverthinking as well.
I am indeed both a pilot and a parent. It has its perks and drawbacks like any job.
I would love to see your post but I can’t seem to access your site? I requested access.
Thank you stopping by and leaving such a lovely comment. Wishing you well Selma 🙏
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Hi. Yes, it looks you did go there, or rather, that WordPress sent you there. (don’t know why they do that) Anyway, I’m so glad you tried. Thanks. I’ve set it up so that there’s a notice there that says “I’ve Moved. Go here:” but people seem to miss it. No worries. Here’s the link. https://selmamartin.com/the-complete-beginners-guide-to-parenting-and-flying-solo/
It would be an honor to know that a pilot/parent came by to read it. Thanks beforehand. Thanks for all you do. Be well, I wish you miracles. selmamartin.
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