Hello lovely readers and welcome back to my weekly newsletter! The only newsletter that reminds which direction earth is whenever you’re up looking at the stars…
Following a 3-2-1 approach, it contains 3 thoughts from me (that you should ignore), 2 quotes from others (that you should read), and 1 something special (maybe).
Let’s begin!
3 x Thoughts:
1) Your values aren’t what you say they are. Your values are what you do. They’re what you embody. If you binge watch Netflix every night, that is something you value. Living and acting in accordance with our values is what gives our lives meaning and raises self-esteem. Saying what we believe is right but acting otherwise does the opposite.
2) There’s a big difference between treating people the same and forcing equal outcomes.
3) Sometimes doing what is right feels good as well, and that makes things easy. It’s also true that what is bad sometimes makes us feels bad too. More often than not, however, what feels good and what is right don’t align. Conversely what is wrong but feels good does. At least initially. The trick here is acknowledging and being kind to how we feel now, while reminding ourselves how things will feel/be in the future. Another trick is reminding yourself what will happen if you fail to act in accordance with your values. You want an idea to run away from as much as you want a goal to run towards.
2 x Quotes:
“Emotion, which is suffering, ceases to be suffering as soon as we form a clear and precise picture of it.”
― Baruch Spinoza, Ethics
“It’s a curious truth that when you gently pay attention to negative emotions, they tend to dissipate – but positive ones expand.”
– Oliver Burkeman Source: If you want to have a good time, ask a Buddhist
1 x Thing:
This week I have a question: “What are your most important values and why? How do you live up to them?“
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Great values to live by LA. Thank you 🙏
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I’m not so sure that I agree with your #3. Feeling good about something is a perspective, while doing what is right is a value.
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That’s my point – just because something feels good doesn’t mean that it is good. Just because something feels bad doesn’t mean that it is either. Being honest can feel bad but it’s the right thing to do. Lying can feel good but it is wrong. If we stand by our values despite how it makes us feel, we often feel better/gain self esteem in the long run. It’s helpful to remind yourself of that in order to help navigate difficult emotions.
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Empathy, honesty, effort, curiosity, creativity, humor, patience, courage… These are some of the attributes I value. Great post, AP. I especially like the Burkeman quote.<3
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Thanks Cheryl. Wishing you well 🙏
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Honesty is a big one for me. I try to embody honesty in everything I do and say. Sometimes it’s easier, sometimes it’s harder, but in my life so far I’ve found that honesty truly is the best policy.
Peace to you and your family my friend. And hope for many blessings as 2022 continues on! ❤️
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