Hello lovely readers and welcome back to 3-2-1 Flying Fridays! The only weekly post that believes embracing uncertainty is the only sure way to live…
Following a 3-2-1 approach, it contains 3 thoughts from me (that you should ignore), 2 quotes from others (that you should read), and 1 something special (maybe).
As a bonus I’ve finished with one joke that’s so bad, it’s good!
Let’s begin!
3 x Thoughts:
1) A relationship without conflict is doomed. We must challenge each other if we want to grow together. We need a person who will contend with us, not someone who will only worship us. We need someone who is courageous enough to tell us the truth, even if it hurts.
2) If you want to conquer fear you have to define it in pain-staking detail first. You have to hold it up in the light and examine it to see it for what it really is:
- False.
- Evidence.
- Appearing.
- Real.
3) Change is the only certainty in life. To cling to what you know only provides you with a false sense of security. To embrace change – to embrace the unknown – is to embrace life itself.
2 x Quotes:
“Set aside a certain number of days, during which you shall be content with the scantiest and cheapest fare, with coarse and rough dress, saying to yourself the while: “Is this the condition that I feared?””
— Seneca
“What we fear doing most is usually what we most need to do.”
— Tim Ferris.
1 x Thing:
This Tim Ferris article: Fear-Setting: The Most Valuable Exercise I Do Every Month. I highly suggest giving the article a read – especially if you’re currently challenged with making a major life decision. The article goes into greater detail but, in a nut shell, this is what you do:
- Write down the major life change you’re considering.
- Define the worst case scenario in pain staking detail.
- Ask yourself what steps could you take to repair the damage/deal with worst.
- Ask yourself what the outcomes/benefits of a more probable scenario are.
- Ask yourself what the cost will be if you do nothing? What is the cost of inaction?
- Finally, ask yourself what you’re so afraid of?
1 x Joke:
Did you hear about the rock that faced his greatest fear?
He is now a little boulder.
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Clear Air Turbulence 
Ten “Stars,” AP2–thank you!! Outstanding post! 🙏
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Thank you Art 🙏
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You’re welcome! Great read!
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Great post, AP! The first thought hit pretty close to home. I have always tried to avoid conflict because it made me feel threatened. The first couple of years of my relationship with Robert there was little disagreement. Gradually we began to discuss issues of concern to us. Though I still sometimes find this momentarily disconcerting, I have learned that it doesn’t signal diminished love. To the contrary, I have found that this is progress in our relationship, evidence of trust and intimacy. After nearly eight years together we understand each other pretty well.
The section on dealing with fears was thought-provoking and helpful.
I hope things are going well for you and your family in these turbulent times. Wishing you all the best! ❤
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Hi Cheryl! Thank you. Yes, having those conversations isn’t easy. My wife and I set aside some time each evening to air out any concerns we want one other to know. By committing ourselves this way we’ve slowly become better at having more constructive conflicts. Like you – I’ve found it’s helped us grow closer.
Like wise Cheryl – hope you and yours are safe, healthy and happy. 🙂🙏
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Great 3-2-1! The fear exercise reminds me of very specific and helpful guidance on how to lean in. Great idea! Thanks, AP2!
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Thank you Wynne – I’ve just gone through it myself for the purpose of getting my head around a certain major life change that is around the corner. I found it very helpful indeed. Wishing you well 🙏
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I really like your take on relationship, it’s true.
Thanks for your thoughts. Have a wonderful weekend.
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Thanks Ritish – I found this one out the hard way. You’ve got to be willing to have those difficult conversations. Peace to you brother 🙏
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Great post always… just worship me.. lol. 😂 I needed a laugh that’s all .. sound advice! 👏👏
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Glad you enjoyed it Cindy – thank you for stopping by 🙏
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I did..you’re most welcome. stay in touch and we’ll stay in the loop and I’ll try too!💖 pleasure!
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Loving this exercise and the simplicity of it; the way it flows is perfect for me and the final set of prompts pave pathways into one’s soul!
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Hi Jaya! Thank you taking the time to stop by to read and comment. Yes, it’s a very valuable exercise to keep in mind. Wishing you well 🙏
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