Stuck in the Clouds: On Reaching Your Destination and Being Real.

Hello lovely readers and welcome back to my high-flying newsletter! The only newsletter that believes dad jokes are no joke…

Following a 3-2-1 approach, it contains 3 thoughts from me (that you should ignore), 2 quotes from others (that you should read), and 1 joke that’s so bad, it’s good!

Let’s begin!

3 Thoughts:

1) “Aim for 70% perfect. Then hit publish and move on with your life. Anything more than 70% and you enter into a diminishing rate of return. The effort stops justifying the reward. Also – the main point – if you aim for 100% perfect you’ll never get there.” – click to tweet

2) “If you can’t find peace now, what makes you believe you’ll find it at your destination? Is where you’re standing now not what once was your destination?” – click to tweet

3)  “The most important emotional distinction you can make is the difference between guilt & shame. Guilt is useful emotion that can facilitate genuine change. Shame is a destructive emotion that makes you more likely to repeat past behaviour. Guilt says I did something bad. Shame says I am something bad.” – click to tweet


Real isn’t how you are made,” said the Skin Horse. “It’s a thing that happens to you. When a child loves you for a long, long time, not just to play with, but really loves you, then you become Real.” “Does it hurt?” asked the Rabbit. “Sometimes,” said the Skin Horse, for he was always truthful. “When you are Real, you don’t mind being hurt.” “Does it happen all at once, like being wound up,” he asked, “or bit by bit?” “It doesn’t happen all at once,” said the Skin Horse. “You become. It takes a long time. That’s why it doesn’t often happen to people who break easily, or have sharp edges, or who have to be carefully kept. Generally, by the time you are Real, most of your hair has been loved off, and your eyes drop out, and you get loose in the joints and very shabby. But these things don’t matter at all, because once you are Real, you can’t be ugly, except to people who don’t understand.”

Margery William from “The Velveteen Rabbit”

For me, and for many of us, our first waking thought of the day is “I didn’t get enough sleep.” The next one is “I don’t have enough time.” Whether true or not, that thought of not enough occurs to us automatically before we even think to question or examine it. We spend most of the hours and the days of our lives hearing, explaining, complaining, or worrying about what we don’t have enough of.…Before we even sit up in bed, before our feet touch the floor, we’re already inadequate, already behind, already losing, already lacking something. And by the time we go to bed at night, our minds are racing with a litany of what we didn’t get, or didn’t get done, that day. We go to sleep burdened by those thoughts and wake up to that reverie of lack.…This internal condition of scarcity, this mind-set of scarcity, lives at the very heart of our jealousies, our greed, our prejudice, and our arguments with life.

— Lynne Twist. From her book “The Soul of Money.”

Joke Article: 

I’ve always believed that children should grow up believing their father is a bit of an idiot. That way they’ll learn not to take themselves so seriously. As it turns out, unbeknownst to me, that’s the whole point of telling dad jokes. No joke! Have a read of this:

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14 thoughts on “Stuck in the Clouds: On Reaching Your Destination and Being Real.

  • Loved all three of your thoughts AP2. I have been actively working on practising versions of the first 2 personally and on # 3 in my coaching practice.
    Thank you for sharing your insightful perspective on dad jokes.

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    • Thank you Megha. I’m trying to practise these things too. It’s a work in progress. Understanding the difference between shame and guilt has been massive for me. Thank you for taking the time to read and comment 🙏😊

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  • The ‘Real’ wisdom from Skin Horse is one my favorite childhood readings that has endured ever since and to help put my relationships in proper perspective. Thanks AP2
    Happy Easter!

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    • Happy Easter to you too Fred! I believe the right people love us for who we really are. The wrong people pretend to love us for who we pretend to be. 🙏


  • Love the article in lieu of the joke this week. We can all be a bit more self deprecating. My son always tells me to stop giving him a dumb look just to irk me and I tell him I can’t help it, it’s what my face looks like. Then he laughs and smiles. 😆

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    • Haha. That’s awesome. 😂 I also have a dumb look most of the time – mainly because I’m always confused! Pleased you enjoyed the post Ab 🙏


  • Here here to thought number 1 👏 Heck, being Irish it’s in our blood to be silly/tell jokes and take the absolute p**s out of ourselves 💚!! My poor little girls, but they love it. Keep being silly AP2 and a very Happy Easter 🙏🐣


  • Lol – nope my destinations change all the time 😄✌️ you never know what life will bring 😮

    I am on the fence with guilt and shame… guilt can be used as a weapon against a person – I would never have stayed in an marriage without guilt – he used that, and I am catholic – double whammy

    And so can shame… plus with shame in todays world is forced upon people due to media and internet

    But that all depends on who someone truly is, too

    The way those things are applied can be subjective

    And then on your final thought – I don’t think a father has to be seen as an idiot lol … is great that you use comedy that shows love – you make them laugh – that makes a great father – not an idiot – quite smart ❤️👏 you make yourself non threatening and funny – they will love you dearly ❤️ as I’m sure they do 👏👏👏 great job on the father aspect 👏

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    • Guilt can certainly be destructive – especially if you’re made to feel it excessively. However it can also help us leave valuable lessons that change us for the better. Shame on the other is always destructive. When we attempt shame others “bad” people we actually make their narcissism worse.

      As for fathers being idiots. I was joking of course. What I really mean is being silly. Silliness is always a good thing – it lightens everyone’s mood and reminds us not to take ourselves so seriously all the time.

      Thank you for taking the time to read db comment! It’s wonderful for hear from you. I hope you’re doing well. 🙏

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      • Agreed 👍

        Nice to hear from you too ❤️ sorry I don’t always make it over here to read

        Currently I have some drama going on lol ✌️😘

        But I be around here and there ❤️

        I hope you are also doing well – you sound happy ❤️ good wishes to you 🙏✌️

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