Hello fine readers and welcome to my Happy Fucking Mondays Post – a weekly newsletter that attempts to rewrite the narrative Mondays are the shittiest day of the week. (Or at least start it off in a slightly less shit fashion.)
First up I want to wish my beautiful mother and number one fan since birth, a very happy (no expletives) birthday!! (I hope you and my 3 other readers enjoy todays post. Also sorry mum, I know you raised me better than to swear but what can I say? My other readers love it!)
This week it contains 3 thoughts from me, 5 quotes from others and 3 things I’ve been reading, watching and/or listening to this week.
I’ve finished with one something silly to hopefully make you all smile.
Love to all X
3 x Thoughts I’ve Been Thinking:
The change the world needs from you is for you to change. Not for you to change the world.
What if instead of asking our children, “What do you want to do when you’re older?”, we asked, “How do you want to help the world when you’re older?”.
Forget todo lists. Make a get todo list instead.
5 x Quotes I’ve been Pondering:
“Throughout life, from childhood, from school, until we die, we are taught to compare ourselves with another. Yet when I compare myself with another I am destroying myself. In an ordinary school, where there are a lot of boys, when one boy is compared with another who is very clever, who is the head of the class, what is actually taking place? You are destroying the boy. That’s what we are doing throughout life. Now, can we live without comparison to anybody? This means there is no high, no low. There is not the one who is superior and the other who is inferior. You are actually what you are and to understand what you are, this process of comparison must come to an end. If I’m always comparing myself with some saint or some teacher, some businessman, writer, poet, and all the rest, what has happened to me, what have I done? I only compare in order to gain, in order to achieve, in order to become. But when I don’t compare, I am beginning to understand what I am. Beginning to understand what I am is far more fascinating, far more interesting. It goes beyond all this stupid comparison. To understand yourself is the beginning of wisdom.” – Jiddu Krishnamurti (Source Credit: TheEnlightenedMind622)
“To be nobody but yourself in a world which is doing its best day and night to make you like everybody else means to fight the hardest battle which any human being can fight and never stop fighting.” – E. E. Cummings (Source Credit: https://www.brainpickings.org/2017/09/25/e-e-cummings-advice/)
“Everything that irritates us about others can lead us to an understanding of ourselves.” – Carl Jung. (Source Credit: https://www.elitedaily.com/life/what-you-hate-about-yourself/1024464)
“War would end if the dead could return.” – Stanley Baldwin
“Saruman believes it is only great power that can hold evil in check, but that is not what I found. I found it is the small things, everyday deeds of ordinary folk, that keep the darkness at bay. Small acts of kindness and love.” – (Gandalf from Lord of the Ring written by J. R. R. Tolkien).
3 x Things I’ve Been Listening/Reading/Watching this week:
1 – This brilliant podcast episode: How to Kick Bad Habits (and Start Good Ones) from The Happiness Lab with Dr. Laurie Santos.
My notes from the pod:
- Willpower doesn’t really work. When you exert willpower you are thinking about the thing you don’t want to do and in doing so you give that thing energy. It’s self defeating.
- Routine is the secret to changing our bad behaviours.
- To make your routine willpower free you need to form the habit.
- The first critical part of habit formation = rewards
- The second critical component = the routine (A set of specific steps that leads to a reward.)
- The third critical component = the cue or the trigger (this can be time of day. Your mood. Your location. The people you’re with.)
- The third component, the cue, is where we can control or at least help control whether we make a good or a bad habit.
- Nearly half of our waking day is on autopilot. Constantly governed by cues and context. This gives us a powerful opportunity to change. If we can use our consciousness minds to exert control over the context we find ourselves in, we can shift our bad behaviours to the ones we want.
2 – This timely Tim Ferris Podcast with Coach George Raveling on This Unique Moment in Time, How to Practice Self-Leadership, Navigating Difficult Conversations, and More in the wake of George Floyd’s tragic death. Hearing about his need to have a “Stop Strategy”, as a successful, 82-year-old black man in modern American (just in case he’s pulled over by the police), brought home just how easy I’ve had it as a white man and how far we still have to go to right the wrongs of racial prejudice and inequality. Highly recommend listening.
My favourite quotes from the episode:
- We are two sided. We are the problem and we are the solution. – DON’T FORGET THAT
- The most important conversations we can have openly are the ones we only have with ourselves. Let your inner voice out so we can understand.
- The two most important words in the English language are we and us.
- There is nothing more fundamental than a life.
- What is it that would make one human completely disregards and disrespect another human life? That would disrespect the most precious gift of all.
- Looking through the eyes of others will give us a far more balanced view of the world.
- “If a man or women hasn’t found something they are willing to die for perhaps they’re not fit to live” – Martin Luther king
- If we don’t understand our past in the present there will be no future
- If you can’t lead yourself how can you lead anyone else?
- We have a responsibility to lead ourselves during these times of turmoil.
- The system has been built to build average people.
- What is it that I don’t know, that I need to know?
- I will fully commit to being a positive change maker /agent for as many lives as possible. – Take this pledge and live it.
- Everything starts with changing the self
- Don’t give a statement. Give a message. Tell a story.
3 – Started following this comic called The Far Side by Gary Larson. His cartoon ran daily in newspapers from 1980 to 1995. The Far Side went from garnering controversy to becoming one of the most beloved cartoons of its time. Until now, it has never been offered online. Suffice to say his work is brilliantly funny. You can have regular postings of his work delivered to your respective Facebook and/or Instagram feeds by following The Far Side page (either search or click on links)!
1 x Silly Thing To Make You Smile:
So a friend of mine asked for a refreshing gin and tonic with lime the other day.
I said, “With line!?”
I continued, “Would you like that straight or with a twist?”
(If you didn’t get that then please re-read carefully! Also sorry, I couldn’t think of anything better).
Till next time,
Happy Fucking Mondays Everybody!
P.S. Don’t forget to exercise your silly muscle this week!
One Bonus question for you all:
How do you like your lines?