Hello fine readers and welcome to my Happy Silly Mondays Post – a weekly newsletter that attempts to rewrite the narrative Mondays are the most depressing day of the week.
Following the rule of 3, it contains 3 thoughts from me, 3 quotes from others and 3 things I’ve been reading, watching and/or listening to this week.
As a bonus I’ve finished with one something very silly to hopefully make you smile.
Hope you enjoy.
3 x Thoughts From Me:
You can never be perfect. You can always be better.
Today is the most important day of your life. This moment is the most precious moment of your life, because it is the only moment you ever have. Come back to it then live life accordingly.
Never do I feel more like a man when I’m giving someone a hug.
3 x Quotes From Others:
“It’s not the problem that causes our suffering; it’s our thinking about the problem.” – Byron Katie
“The most important thing a creative person can learn professionally is where to draw the red line that separates what you are willing to do, and what you are not. Art suffers the moment other people start paying for it. The more you need the money, the more people will tell you what to do. The less control you will have. The more bullshit you will have to swallow. The less joy it will bring. Know this and plan accordingly.” – Hugh MacLeod
“People ask me, ‘What is the use of climbing Mount Everest?’ and my answer must at once be, ‘It is of no use.’ There is not the slightest prospect of any gain whatsoever. Oh, we may learn a little about the behavior of the human body at high altitudes, and possibly medical men may turn our observation to some account for the purposes of aviation. But otherwise nothing will come of it. We shall not bring back a single bit of gold or silver, not a gem, nor any coal or iron… If you cannot understand that there is something in man which responds to the challenge of this mountain and goes out to meet it, that the struggle is the struggle of life itself upward and forever upward, then you won’t see why we go. What we get from this adventure is just sheer joy. And joy is, after all, the end of life. We do not live to eat and make money. We eat and make money to be able to live. That is what life means and what life is for.” – George Mallory
3 x Things I’ve Been Listening/Reading/Watching this week:
1 – Alain de Botton’s brilliant TED talk about why we suffer from career anxiety more than we ever have before. In it he outlines the need to define ourselves what it means to be successful:
Quotes from the transcript:
“Here’s an insight that I’ve had about success: You can’t be successful at everything. We hear a lot of talk about work-life balance. Nonsense. You can’t have it all. You can’t. So any vision of success has to admit what it’s losing out on, where the element of loss is. And I think any wise life will accept, as I say, that there is going to be an element where we’re not succeeding. “
“One of the interesting things about success is that we think we know what it means. A lot of the time our ideas about what it would mean to live successfully are not our own. They’re sucked in from other people. And we also suck in messages from everything from the television to advertising to marketing, etcetera. These are hugely powerful forces that define what we want and how we view ourselves.“
“What I want to argue for is not that we should give up on our ideas of success, but that we should make sure that they are our own. We should focus in on our ideas and make sure that we own them, that we’re truly the authors of our own ambitions. Because it’s bad enough not getting what you want, but it’s even worse to have an idea of what it is you want and find out at the end of the journey that it isn’t, in fact, what you wanted all along.“
I found it interesting given I regularly go for a walk through our neighbourhood park and, in the process, note down any creative ideas I have. I didn’t realise this method of generating creativity had been backed by science!
3 – If I were to recommend just one podcast to listen to this week, it would this Tim Ferris episode with Elizabeth Gilbert on Saying No, Trusting Your Intuition, Integrity Checks, Grief, Awe, and Much More. I took a huge amount from it!
The truth has legs – it’s the only thing that will left standing at the end of the day.
Grief is not something you master, it’s something you survive. It has something beautiful and it has great lessons for you but you have to surrender to it.
They say great art has to have two features. It has to be both surprising and inevitable.
Why being honest with those you love is the most difficult – because those are the ones you want to hurt the least.
Universal human compassion that doesn’t include the self isn’t universal.
You’re never going to meet anybody who causes you more trouble or pain than you.
When you see someone acting out I’ve got a great name for you to call them: ‘Me on a different day.‘
1 x Silly Thing To Make You Smile:
While trying to teach my son a few more three syllable words this week I asked,
“Can you say, butterfly? But… Ter… Fly?”
“Can you try for dada please? But… Ter… Fly…”
“Ok let’s break it down. Can you finish the word But… Ter…?”
“Fly,” he replied.
“Good. Can you finish the word, But…?
‘Ter-fly”, he replied again.
Great. Now can you say the whole word for me? Can you say But-Ter-Fly?
He pauses before responding with a beaming smile,
Even if you don’t achieve the result you were hoping for, if you give it your best you’ll always be a champ in my book!
Happy Silly Mondays Everyone!
Thanks for reading.
Till next time – don’t forget to exercise your silly muscle!